I saw that I didn’t have to stay for any fear, but I did see what life would be like if we really did divorce. I don’t want someone else to enjoy a life with this recovered/recovering, stable, matured version of him. But its like being between a rock and a hard place.
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In fact, you may be asking yourself: “How long am I going to feel like this? Holidays, birthdays, Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter, and other personal, couple or family anniversaries.
Often our wasbands try to keep their foot in the door of our life by trying to be our friend, or offering to fix the sink, or as one RADi CAL woman revealed, by sending her flowers and candy saying that he still loved her. But you do have to get him out of your life emotionally. Do not be drawn into letting him take up valuable space and energy in your head and in your heart that you should be concentrating on yourself and your own new life. But the next question is what’s really important: What do I do now? ” Other professionals say that you need one month of recovery time for every year of marriage. My honest opinion is that divorce takes at least one year of serious work to get through successfully.
He moved out for a few months, we co-parented our boys (now ages 4 and 6), we drafted a legal separation agreement. Given reality, given our children and our family and our professional dreams and so on, my life, as it is today, is better/easier/more supported with him than without him. And I don’t know what more to expect, or how to think about all of this.
We were able to experience, and imagine, what divorce and a two-home family would be like. Everyone would be okay no matter what direction we ultimately took. I would have married my ex-boyfriend if I knew then what I know now. Well, my “the One” certainly wouldn’t have spent 4 years screwing hookers. And, in truth, I see him for who he is TODAY and I don’t want to lose that man. I think I am at a place where I do believe a marriage can survive. I do believe there is life, together, beyond D-day and that the two people can even grow stronger, more real, than before. That you accept a life of peace and contentment, but not happiness.